Opposites Attract?

I'm not sure what is going on but I am angry, upset and confused right now.

Again, plans with the boy got cancelled. I am pissed that I just took a long shower and over a half hour to straighten my hair only to find out that we weren't going anywhere. I was really looking forward to tonight especially after not seeing him last night. Now, nothing again and I can't figure it out.

We just had this long conversation via facebook chat. I really thought he was leading up to breaking up with me. But what he was saying was that he wants me in his life just not as often and then went on to say that we have some personality traits that clash and we need to work on them.

He said he feels trapped and overwhelmed. I find this confusing cause I don't see him that often. I saw him twice this week, once was his idea, once was mine. I am afraid that if he feels trapped now with only seeing him twice a week that we will now see each other never and the relationship will be over.

See, I am a planner. I like to know what my day is looking like so I can prepare for it accordingly. He is the opposite, he never plans. He rarely knows what he is doing until 2 hours before it happens. I just don't operate like that. Also, we will make plans that I get all excited for and then he will cancel them or change them at the last minute for work/sick/play and then I get disappointed and he wonders why. Tonight he has flip-flopped a million times about what our plans were and it is super annoying to me. I just want to know what we are doing tonight so that I can get ready and do it.

Also, our ideas of what is fun are different. He likes to go to a bar and drink, I would much rather go bowling or to a movie. So we are both sacrificing to do what the other enjoys and I am hoping that in the end we will both equally like doing what the other likes. He likes being in a large group and I like doing things one-on-one.

We're different. I guess our personalities clash a bit. But there is something in mine that he is attracted to and something in his that attracts me to him. Maybe the fact that we have enough in common yet enough different is what makes it work. I hope so, cause I really like this one. In fact, I think I love him. I haven't told him that yet but I definitely know that I am falling in love with him. I really want to make it work. And I feel that if both people want it to work out then usually it will. I just worry that these differences will cost us eventually.

I want nothing more than to see him right now, but if I have to take a step back to keep him then that is what I'll do. I just know in myself that I can only deal with that for so long. And I am worried about that.