Unwanted Attention

Last night, my boyfriend and I went to our favorite local watering hole to watch our friend, who I call "Glitter Bug", sing karaoke. We had an absolutely amazingly fun time.

There was one point during the evening that I was sitting at the bar alone. My boyfriend and Glitter Bug went outside for some fresh air. I am comfortable at this bar so it didn't bother me to be sitting there alone. I am enjoying my drink and people watching when the bartender taps me on the shoulder and points down to the other end of the bar to a guy who then waves me to come over. I wasn't sure why he was waving me over, I thought that I knew him from somewhere or something. I sit down next to him and he offers to buy me a drink. I ask him "On what conditions?" He said that he was hoping that if he bought me a drink that I would kiss or make out with him. I laughed and said "That is not going to happen." He asked me who I was there with and I told him straight out "My boyfriend and my friend." He gets all mad and says "You were going to let me buy you a drink when you have a boyfriend!" Actually I never accepted his drink offer. I questioned it from the very beginning. Then, he gives me his phone number (which I didn't ask for) and says that when, not if, I break up with my boyfriend to give him a call. This guy was getting a little close and touched my leg when I boyfriend walked in from outside. My boyfriend came over and started talking to us and then gave me an excuse to leave that situation.

Throughout the night the guy who hit on me kept staring at me, waving to me and winking. It made me really uncomfortable. On our way out of the bar, the guy and his friend followed us out and touched me on the back. I hated it! I was very uncomfortable but didn't know what to do.

I know that it was my fault for sitting down next to the guy but I knew that I had back up if he tried anything really tricky. I am a pretty smart chick so I knew not to accept his drink unless I saw it being made by the bartender and I knew not to give him my phone number. I also knew that this guy was going to get his ass kicked it he tried anything...Glitter Bug is a 250 lb. guy, and he will kick ass if he needs to. My boyfriend is also not a small guy. I also knew two of the bartenders who would bounce this guy out of there if needed. So I knew I would be protected, and thankfully I didn't need to be. But I still wish that I slapped the guy when he touched me or screamed at him or did something to defend myself and my body more.

Am I being too overprotective of myself? Also, I don't want my boyfriend to think that I sought out this guy or think that I wanted his phone number. What should I have done in this situation?

(And why is it that guys always hit on you once you are taken but never when you are available?)

Type Casting

There are a few types of guys in a single girls life. Some are date-able, some we pine over and others we avoid at all costs.

There's the guy you want but can't have. You flirt with him, you exchange looks with him, you joke and laugh with him, you talk with him often but for some reason or another he is unavailable to you. Maybe he has a girlfriend of his own. Maybe he is unattainable because of the position he is in. But he is off the date potential list for some reason. Sometimes as a single girl, you let this man out of your mind and other times you make a game out of flirting with him. But always know that he will never be your boyfriend, so that is all it is....a game.

Then there is the guy who thinks of you only as a friend. He hangs out with you, calls you, texts you, talks to you but that is as far as it will ever go. Even if you want it to go further, it never will. He just wants you as a friend for whatever reason. The more you try to date him, the further he pushes you away, so eventually you give up and accept that he is your acquaintance, but really you are hoping that he will change his mind one day and fall head over heels for you.

There is the guy who you think of as only a friend. He is a nice guy. You know he is a good person and probably would make a great boyfriend but for some reason you just aren't attracted to him. It's confusing to a single girl because he is a great catch. It would make sense to want this guy with the kind personality who is super polite and opens doors for you but you just aren't attracted to him and have no explanation for it.

Then there is the guy who you avoid at all costs. He thinks he is God's gift to women and is only after you for the sex. He has confidence in some things but not in everything. He will flirt with every girl in the place in hopes that one of them accepts his offer. He may be the desperate one. He may be the cocky one. All you know is that he is the one that you can't stand to be around. You try to become suddenly busy when he walks in the room. Your statements are short with him in hopes that he loses interest in the conversation. Sometimes you don't even know why you hate him, but you do and you can't wait until he walks away and leaves you alone.

Then there is the guy who walks into your life and changes it. You may not like him when you first meet him or you may want him as soon as you lay eyes on him but one day you'll realize that you can't live without him. That is the man of your dreams, the love of your life. And we all hope that someday we will meet that special person that will change our life for the better.

He's Just Not That Into You

He's just not that into you. Story of my life.

Apparently, and I am totally just guessing and overanalyzing here, but apparently my current little crush does not have a crush on me back. After talking / texting on a semi-daily basis for the past two months, he has suddenly fallen off the face of the planet and I have not heard from him in about a week.

Overanalyzing....maybe. Overreacting...perhaps. But it still leaves me confused.

So indulge me in my little crazy overanalyzing cause y'all know that I'm going to do it anyway.

Is it that he is just busy or is he really not that into me? He seems flirty when we are together and we get along just fine. We were talking on a semi-daily basis until this...nothingness. Is he on the other end thinking the same things about me...that I fell off the face of earth and am not that into him?

So, what does a girl do? Should I call him tomorrow and give it one last chance to re-spark, or do I just leave it be as if it doesn't really matter to me? I don't want him to think that I am not interested in him (even though he is showing that he is not interested at all in me). Those of you that know me know that I am not one to give up. I have been known to wait years for a guy to come around (which isn't necessarily a good thing).

Obviously I am not good at this dating thing and starting (and well keeping) relationships, so if you are reading this and you have any input, PLEASE help. I am getting tired of being single...not that I am trying to force anything, but I would like to get into the dating game rather than sitting on the sidelines.