Stop Looking Already

I got some dating advice (again) tonight. My friend said that when you stop looking the right one will come to you. Everyone has heard this saying before. But what he said is that you have to be honest about it. You REALLY can't be looking....AT ALL. You almost have to push people away, the right one will stay even though you are pushing them out.

I think that he may be right but that is SO hard. If a guy asked me out right now, I am jumping at the opportunity since I have had ZERO dates in a year and a half. So I would take that opportunity and run. He said that when dating you must be equal parts playing hard to get and being available. So you must make yourself available but you have to be in control of it. Don't be available all the time. Reject the guy a couple of times then make yourself available to him. This is hard advice to follow when you are looking for a man. But see above, if you aren't looking it's easy to do this. Nothing that is achieved cheaply is valued in the end.

My friend said that the way to get guys to approach you is to make yourself the center of attention (in a good way) no matter where you are. You want to be the one that everyone wants to hang out with. You have to become "that girl" as opposed to just "some girl". See, I feel that I do this. Maybe not everywhere I go, but for the most part if I am hanging out with my friends, I don't care what any one else is doing, I am having a good time. It's just for me that no one is approaching me and I don't understand why.

I think that the advice that my friend gave me is true. It's just applying it that is hard. I think that I will invest a little more in myself so that I can forget about being single for a while. Maybe then, when I am not looking, the right one will come along.