My friend recently gave me this dating advice. Her brother used to work security at a casino. He has a world of great casino advice, but at the top of the list is this: go to the slot that hasn't been used in awhile. The slot machines that people walk away from, aren't paying out. The machines that haven't been touched in awhile, for whatever reason, seem pay out when you walk up to them. When you're at a machine that seemed like it's gonna pay out, but doesn't, or has paid out, but stops, walk away. Try another machine.
A part of me wants to agree with her. You have to know when to keep putting change in and when to walk away. But I also feel that sometimes, people give up too quickly and that persistence can pay off. When dating, I feel that it all depends on the situation. Some walk away just when the guy was getting warmed up to the idea of dating you.
What I am saying is that it often takes time to get to know one another. And usually you are getting to know each other through a friendship and casual flirting. To give up just at the point when he is starting to get to know the real you is a loss and your persistence may pay off.
In other situations they are just blowing sunshine up your ass and they really want nothing to do with dating you but don't want to hurt your feelings by saying no.
I'm one to not give up. I am one to chase a guy that I liked in high school for over 5 years. I had a crush on him that just wouldn't go away. In college, he decided that he had feelings for me too that grew over time and we dated. Who cares that we broke up 3 years later. My point is that my persistence paid off and he did date me cause I didn't give up.
I feel that you can keep pursuing and he may still continue to reject you. But isn't part of the fun the pursuit. And why not keep chasing so long as it's still fun to you.
Keep putting the change in, eventually the slot will pay out.
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